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210 E. 9th St., Bartlesville, OK  74003
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Contents
1st Bishop's Lecture Series Coming in September

Living Breathing Christianity

Bishop's Annual Appeal

Mind, Body, and Spirit Event Offered

Disaster Recovery and Preparedness
Joint Nominating Committee Presents Second of Three Essays

Episcopal Church Foundation Offers Basics of a Capital Campaign Webinar

Stewardship Recruit Your Dream Team Now

Safeguarding God's Children

Safeguarding God's People

Tulsa Area Ignatian Retreat in Daily Life

Brains and Bratwursts

Icon Workshop

Laundry Love Ministry

Western Days 2014

How Young is Too Young for Digital Technology?

Episcoposse Schedule for Summer

Happening Scheduled for August 1 - 3

Applications for 2014-15 Class of EYLA Available

Forgiveness: A Growth in Love E-Course

ChurchNext Offers the Spirituality of Children

Diocesan Events

 

 

August 7

Mind, Body, and Spirit in the 2nd Half of Life

St. Augustine's of Canterbury

 

August 14 - 16

Education for Ministry Mentor Training

St. Crispin's

 

September 12 - 13

Bishop's Lecture Series

St. Paul's Cathedral, OKC

 

October 18-19

Education for Ministry Retreat

The Rev. Dr. Christopher Bryan

St. Crispin's Conference Center

 

October 25

Liturgy Worship Festival

St. Paul's Cathedral

 

 

Diocesan Wide Events

 

September 9

Western Days, Saint Simeon's

Our Home is Grand!

 

October 18 - 19

Education for Ministry Retreat

(Open to all)

The Rev. Dr. Christopher Bryan

St. Crispin's Conference Center

 



 

Community Events

 

August 7

Rev. John Price to Talk about Near Death Experiences

Cox Convention Center

10 - 11:30

 

August 16

James Finley

The Mustical Dimension of the 12-Steps for us All

Monte Cassino School, Tulsa

 

September 5 - 6

Enneagram Workshop Offered

St. Monica Catholic Church

Dallas, TX

  

September 21

1 - 5 p.m.

Interfaith Youth Tour

 

Bishop's Schedule


July 14 - 29
Holy Land Pilgrimage

August 2
Ordination to Sacred Order of Priests - Twila Smith
10 a.m.
St. John's Episcopal Church
Norman, OK


Bishop Ed is now on Twitter @ OKBishopEd.
  
  
Bishop Ed's Address to Convention is now on the website. Go tohttp://www.epiok.org/videos.html and it is the first one on the page. 

 

 


Companion 
Diocese
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  Bishop uruguay

Bishop Pollesel

 

Holy God, source of healing and of peace, bless with your grace the companion dioceses of  Oklahoma and Uruguay. Through our partnership one with another may we grow in mutual affection and communion, seek a more profound experience of truth, build up the Church in unity and give glory to Jesus Christ our Saviour. Amen.

 

 

New Web site:

 

 http://uruguay.anglican.org/

 

 

 

 

 

Diocese of Jerusalem






Diocesan Newsletter

The next Diocesan Newsletter
 will be 
Friday, August 1, 2014.





We Are Epiok.org

July 25, 2014

Issue 26

From the Diocese
1st Bishop's Lecture Series - The Once and Future Church: Passing on Faith from Tradition to Hashtags
Dr. Lisa Kimball
Dr. Patricia Lyons

 

Drs. Lisa Kimball and Patricia Lyons believe healthy congregations know how to invite people of all ages into the ultimate epic adventure: the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Sadly, the wonder and mystery of Christian discipleship too often loses out to competing 21st century narratives.


The Bishop's September Lecture Series  is designed to help you recognize the importance of lifelong AND life-wide Christian formation at the heart of the church's mission. Using a unique blend of humor, systematic theology, game theory, popular culture, scripture, current research on congregational vitality, and their deep experience in Christian formation with all ages, Tricia and Lisa will present hopeful, practical approaches to ministry in our hyper-connected, digital age. A seminary professor with over twenty years full-time experience in parish, diocesan and national church ministry, and a religion and ethics teacher for over 15 years in an Episcopal high school have a lot to share about the once and future Church they love.

 

Tricia and Lisa have been presenters at the E-formation conference at VTS, Christian Formation Conference, Kanuga Conference Center, and at the House of Bishops.

 

Schedule of Events - September 12 - 13, 2014

St. Paul's Cathedral, OKC

 

Friday Night - A Taste of What is to Come!

Wine and Cheese Event $20

 

Saturday

Doors Open at 9:30 a.m.

Program at 10 - 12

Lunch

Program ends at 2 - $40

 

Register for both events at a discounted cost of $50.

 

This event is open to anyone. Click here for more information and registration form.

Living Breathing Christianity - Reflections on the Episcopal Youth Event 

From Building Faith - Posted by Iman Green on July 16th, 2014 

Last week, hundreds of teenagers from around the country gathered at Villanova University for fellowship, workshops, presentations, service projects, worship, and more.

The gathering was The Episcopal Youth Event (EYE) - held every three years. Building Faith is blessed to have had Iman Green live on the scene. She caught up with several participants. Here is what they had to say: (Only 1 comment is listed - Blair Johnson, Emmanuel Church, Shawnee)

Blair, Diocese of Oklahoma, age 17

What was the best part of EYE? - Connecting more deeply with my fellow Oklahoma delegates and being able to see and experience a group of complete strangers become an energy filled ball of friends.

How did Jesus surprise you? - Everyday I encountered vibrant caring strangers. I saw Jesus in them, and in those encounters.

What will you take home from this experience that will change your ministry? - I plan on utilizing energizers as a camp counselor at St.Crispin's (The Episcopal camp in Oklahoma). I also plan to share information about outreach programs with my youth group. 

Bishop's Appeal

  

 

 

We now have just over $29,000 to send to San Agustin Preschool in Montevideo, Uruguay. This already exceeds the goal of $27,500 and is a remarkable testament to the generosity of Oklahoman Episcopalians. My deepest thanks to everyone for their heartfelt support of this important ministry in our companion diocese.

 

If you have not yet made a gift, please consider doing so. A contribution of any amount will help make the school a reality to many underprivileged four- and five-year olds. Please respond by July 31st if you can, so that I can let Bishop Michele know what to expect.

Mind, Body, and Spirit in the Second Half of Life

Who should attend this event? What does it mean to be in the "Second Half of Life"? Those questions have been asked several times and the answer is YOU! Making plans for the inevitable can be done at any stage of your life. Whether you are eligible for the "senior discount coffee" at McDonald's or prefer the early bird special at Golden Corral or are getting close to either of these events, this event will offer valuable information from a religious, legal, and spiritual side. 
 
The Diocese and the Senior Ministries Committee are pleased to offer this event again. It will be held at St. Augustine's of Canterbury, OKC, on August  7, starting at 10 a.m. (doors open at 9:30 a.m.) It will offer 6 workshops, of which you can attend 3, and a lunch speaker. All workshops are age related, such as "Aging is Changing" and Messy Paperwork of Spiritual Life, along with Messy Paperwork of Legal Life. A spiritual workshop is also offered.

Lunch will be catered from Nunu's Mediterranean Restaurant in Oklahoma City. 

Cost is $15 for food, handouts, and door prizes!

Click here for a registration form. 
Disaster Recovery and Preparedness

Hello everyone! 

Now that we have transitioned from reporting about ERD news to the news of disaster preparedness and recovery, I would like to feature people in and out of the Diocese who are making a difference. It may not focus on an Episcopal parish or outreach effort but it will feature an individual or group that is helping Oklahoma be a model for disaster preparedness/relief/recovery for the nation.

Trinity Episcopal, Father Borrego, and the Logan County LTRC

Trinity Episcopal Church in Guthrie, Oklahoma is the oldest Episcopal parish in the state. Its' architecture reflects a turn-of-the century style; it is both charming and welcoming. Father John Borrego is the same, welcoming, knowledgeable and proud of the congregation, who has organized an institution, of sorts, in Guthrie, Oklahoma: Lunch on Noble, an outreach effort to feed the less fortunate a lunch every day. This effort is revered and respected all amongst the townspeople.

Father Borrego is also involved in the newly formed Logan County LTRC (Long Term Recovery Committee), a name given to a group that has been formed after a disaster has occurred in the area. In May the wildfires struck the south eastern part of Logan County and the Guthrie area, wiping out the homes and properties of as many as 25 families. This isn't the first time a disaster has struck there, and many believe it won't be the last. 

But this time, Logan County has an LTRC with members representing non-profit groups, such as Red Cross, Catholic Charities and Neighborhood Solutions, churches such as First Presbyterian and Trinity, and groups such as the Chamber of Commerce, the Office of Emergency Management and the Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma. It is a group whose mission includes providing services (through money, materials and muscle) to families affected by disaster, and a disaster can be small or large. It is still a disaster if it affects only one.

Catholic Charities offers case management for the families, and funders such as Salvation Army and Episcopal Diocese, and volunteer efforts through the churches and Neighborhood Solutions help to get these lives back to normal. Once the affected families' cases have been closed, the LTRC remains an LTRC and springs into action as soon as the next disaster occurs.

GROUPS WHO WISH TO DO MISSION WORK HERE IN OKLAHOMA TO AID DISASTER RECOVERY

If you get a lead, or receive a call from a group leader from ANYwhere in the state or the country, that wishes to do mission work to aid in disaster recovery here in Oklahoma, have them call me, your new Disaster Recovery Coordinator. Scheduling groups for volunteer work projects is part of my job, and I would love to talk with them and plug them in to helping a family still in the recovery mode. There are many and Moore is by no means over as far as disaster recovery and the number of work projects! There are other places in the state that need volunteers as well.
  
405-232-4820 or my cell 405-306-3705
Email: disaster@epiok.org

Care and be aware.

Anne Kueteman
Disaster Recovery Coordinator
The Episcopal Church Events and Information
Joint Nominating Committee Presents  
Second of Three Essays

The Joint Nominating Committee for the Election of the Presiding Bishop (JNCPB) continues its work to prepare The Episcopal Church for the election of the 27th Presiding Bishop at General Convention next summer.  The Committee publishes the second of three essays designed to begin a discussion about the election which will take place in the summer of 2015.  

The second essay outlines the current roles, functions, and responsibilities of the Presiding Bishop.  This first essay described the basic time-line and steps of the nominating and election process.  The third essay will discuss how the constitutional/canonical role of the office has changed and evolved from being the senior bishop by consecration who presiding over meetings of the House of Bishops to the complex multifaceted position it is today.

It is the hope of the Joint Nominating Committee for the Election of the Presiding Bishop that all members of General Convention and all Episcopalians will take the time to read these brief essays to learn the importance of what we will do next summer.  Should you have any questions or comments about these essays or the work of the Joint Nominating Committee for the Election of the Presiding Bishop please contact pbnominatingcommittee@gmail.com.

The JNCPB is comprised of a lay member, a priest or deacon, and a bishop elected from each of the nine provinces of the Episcopal Church, plus two youth representatives, appointed by the President of the House of Deputies. The General Convention Deputies and bishops serve a three-year term to conclude at the close of General Convention 2015 in Salt Lake City, UT (Diocese of Utah).

Election of the Presiding Bishop in 2015:  Essay #2
July 2014

The Roles and Functions of the Presiding Bishop Today
The goal of this second education piece of the Joint Nominating Committee for the Election of the Presiding Bishop is to provide The Episcopal Church, and potential candidates with information on the vast responsibilities of the complex and multifaceted position that the Presiding Bishop holds today.
The most familiar description of the roles and functions of the Presiding Bishop can be found in Canon I.2.4 of the Constitution and Canons of the Episcopal Church (pp. 28-29):
     (a)  The Presiding Bishop shall be the Chief Pastor and Primate of the Church, and shall:
        (1)  Be charged with responsibility for leadership in initiating and developing the policy and strategy in the Church and speaking for the Church as to the policies, strategies and programs authorized by the General Convention;
        (2)  Speak God's words to the Church and to the world, as the representative of this Church and its episcopate in its corporate capacity;
        (3)  In the event of an Episcopal vacancy within a Diocese, consult with the Ecclesiastical Authority to ensure that adequate interim Episcopal Services are provided;
        (4)  Take order for the consecrations of Bishops, when duly elected; and, from time to time, assemble the Bishops of this Church to meet, either as the House of Bishops or a Council of Bishops, and set the time and place of such meetings;
        (5)  Preside over meetings of the House of Bishops; and, when the two Houses of the General Convention meet in Joint Session, have the right of presiding over such Session, of calling for such Joint Session, of recommending legislation to either House, and, upon due notification, of appearing before and addressing the House of Deputies; and whenever addressing the General Convention upon the state of the Church, it shall be incumbent upon both Houses thereof to consider and act upon any recommendations contained in such address;
        (6)  Visit every Diocese of this Church for the purpose of: (1) Holding pastoral consultations with the Bishop or Bishops thereof and, with their advice, with the Lay and Clerical leaders of the jurisdiction; (ii) Preaching the Word; and (iii) Celebrating the Holy Eucharist.

     (b)  The Presiding Bishop shall report annually to the Church, and may, from time to time, issue Pastoral Letters.

To continue reading, click here.
Episcopal Church Foundation Offers Basics of a Capital Campaign Webinar August 27, 2014
A successful capital campaign raises more than money. It raises up new leadership, better communication, and a stronger spiritual community. This webinar will provide a step-by-step understanding of the methodology that has led hundreds of Episcopal parishes to success using a flexible three phase process: Discernment, Feasibility Study, and the Gifting Phase. Learn how to prepare for and execute a campaign for your church. All lay and clergy leadership are welcome to participate. Presented by Terri Mathes, ECF Senior Program Director.

Single class scheduled on 8/27/2014 at 7:00PM. Click here for registration information. 
Stewardship: Recruit Your Dream Team Now from Episcopal Church Foundation Vital Practices
 
True Story: The week school let out for summer, I received four invitations to lunch and knew it was time to recruit next year's stewardship team. Each of those invitations represented a networking or volunteer request. Don't lose your best volunteers by waiting too late to invite them to join in. Use the tips below to recruit your stewardship Dream Team now.
Try this: Avoid the temptation to raid the finance committee or vestry for your stewardship team. Instead, list the skills you need: organization, communication, theological grounding, hospitality and creativity. Then invite people with those skills to lunch and recruit like this:

List your needs; list their talents: For example, "We're building a team to make this year's fall stewardship drive creative and fun. We want to emphasize St. James' importance in people's lives and you are such a great storyteller."

Then listen: Ask what interests them. Be prepared to adapt your plan to their passions. You'll be glad you did.  Check out this ECF Vital Practices article for a story on when a parishoner's call doesn't meet the volunteer opening.

Be like Uncle Sam: Nothing builds commitment and loyalty in a volunteer like saying, "I want you." Close the conversation by saying, "You could really help us make a difference. I'd like you to lead this part of the project."

For a more complete guide to recruiting your stewardship team, visit ECF Vital Practices to watch this free webinar.
Diocesan Events and Information
Safeguarding God's Children
Safeguarding 
Saturday, July 19
St. Paul's, Claremore
9:30 until 12:30
Please call the Church office (918) 341-0168 to enroll in this session.

Safeguarding God's People

Safeguarding People2
Safeguarding People1
 

There are four videos in these series - 2 on Safeguarding God's People - Sexual Harassment and 2 on Exploitation.

Those required to take Harassment include:

Clergy
Finance Committee
Vestries
Supervisors of employees of volunteers
Standing Committee members
Diocesan Council members

Those who are required to take Exploitation include:

Clergy
Youth Ministers
Members of Vestries and Bishop Committees
Stephens Ministers
Community of Hope
Spiritual Directors (those trained by FIND or any other licensing group
Ministers of any sacraments outside of public worship
Life leadership/peer coaches
Leaders/facilitators of: Bible studies, Cursillo (serving on teams) Christian Formation (EfM mentors, Catechumenate sponsors)
Small group/ministries (New Member ministries, prayer ministry)
Licensed Worship leaders
Licensed preachers
Licensed catechists
Lay Congregational Leaders
Lay Chaplains
Interns
Persons who do field work

 

August 9   

9 - noon

St. Michael's Church

Norman

Contact the church at  405 321 8951 to register.

 

September 9 

9 - noon

Church of the Resurrection

OKC

Contact the church at  721 2929 to register

Congregational Events and News
Tulsa Area Ignatian Retreat in Daily Life

The Ignatian Retreat in Daily Life is a prayer journey for those who want to live more deeply in relationship with God. Based on the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola, the
retreat is a time set apart in the midst of everyday life to help participants discern more clearly God's movement in their hearts. 

In the tradition of Ignatian spirituality, the retreat focuses on the life, teachings, death and resurrection of Jesus through a prayerful encounter with the Scriptures. The Ignatian principle of "finding God in all things" lies at the heart of the retreat.

RETREAT FORMAT
During the course of 30 weeks--from October through April--retreatants live their commitment to God, to themselves and to their fellow participants by following the steps of this prayer journey. Each retreatant commits to these three activities:
-Daily private prayer which includes Scripture, reflection, and journaling

-Weekly small group meetings in which participants share their prayer experiences with each other.Groups are facilitated by a spiritual guide.

-Twice monthly individual spiritual direction.

FEES FOR THE RETREAT
Fees for the retreat are $10 per weekly meeting and $20 per session for spiritual direction--or $80 per month. There is a one-time fee of $60 for materials. No one is turned away from the retreat for lack of funds, and a fee schedule can be arranged based on ability to pay.

THE FIRST STEP
If you are interested in the Retreat in Daily Life (RIDL) contact the facilitator listed below to schedule an initial interview. The interview process is an opportunity for you to learn more about the retreat, to discern with the facilitator whether or not you are
ready to make the retreat at this time, and to prepare
yourself for the retreat experience. You will need to schedule your interview to occur between July 15 and August 31.

Contact in the Tulsa area:
Katie Boudreau, kboudreau7@cox.net or
918-748-8546

For Information about RIDL in other areas of Oklahoma, go to the state-wide website: www.ridlok.org.

"Few souls understand what God
would accomplish in them if they
were to abandon themselves
unreservedly to Him and if they
were to allow His grace to mold
them accordingly."
- St. Ignatius of Loyola

Brains & Bratwursts - 2nd Annual Trivia Night Benefiting New Hope of Oklahoma 

 Trivia Entertainment Provided by Live Event Trivia
 
Funds from this event will help support New Hope in its work with children of prisoners.  Christ Church Episcopal provides an after school
program, college scholarships, summer camp assistance and more for children through New Hope. www.newhopeoklahoma.org
 
When:
Saturday, August 16th
Doors open at 6:00pm, Dinner at 6:30pm, Trivia begins at 7:00pm
 
Where:
Christ Church Episcopal, 10901 South Yale Avenue
 
Registration deadline is August 12th.
They can register and pay online at
http://www.christchurchtulsa.org/brains-bratwursts/
Events and News from Other Places
Icon Workshop with renowned iconographer, Peter Pearson

August 13-16, 2014
 
St. Christopher's Episcopal Church
2807- 42nd St. 
Lubbock, TX 
 
Workshop hours: 
6:00 pm to 9:00pm on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday evenings  
9:00 am to Noon on Saturday morning
 
All are welcome--no experience needed, no special artistic talent required. 
· Subject is Michael, the Archangel
· Cost $300.00 - The cost covers Peter's travel expenses; any net funds go to support the Neighborhood Youth Fund at St. Christopher's to help kids go to church camp.
· All supplies are provided.
Please make checks payable to St. Christopher's Episcopal Church; designate "icon workshop" in the memo line.
 
Mail checks to:
St. Christopher's Episcopal Church
Icon Workshop  
2807 42nd Street
Lubbock, TX 79413-3223
 
For more information please contact Carole Wolf at carolewlf@yahoo.com.  
Laundry Love Ministry

Based in Venice Beach, CA (Diocese of Los Angeles), Laundry Love is a ministry through which the members of the Episcopal Community of Thad's demonstrate that "people are the new program" at a Laundromat in nearby Santa Monica.
Laundry Love "is a way to make a love-spreading difference in our community," the Rev. Jimmy Bartz  of Thad's continued. "It's the modern day footwashing."

"Laundry Love is about developing connection and relationship," explained Mike Collins, Episcopal Church Manager of Multimedia.  "It's a simple way to encourage communion between the poor and the people of Thad's."

Click here to watch the video. 
Senior Living Events and News

Western Days 2014 at Saint Simeon's 

   

(l-r) Kristin Bender, Event Co-Chair, Lucy and John Barker, Patron Chairs, and Mable Rice, Pioneer Spirit Award Recipient and Saint Simeon's Resident, Celebrate Western Days: OKLAHOMA! Our Home is Grand! Kickoff Party at The Tulsa Tennis Club

Western Days is less than 2 months away!


Western Days 2014: OKLAHOMA! Our Home is Grand! will mark the 18th annual milestone of the exciting Western-themed fundraising event to benefit Saint Simeon's. Western Days 2014 will be held Tuesday, Sept. 9 at Central Park Hall at EXPO Square in Tulsa. A new website with all of the event information was recently launched! 

Visit westerndaysevent.com to learn all about:
· Event details
· Sponsorship opportunities
· How to buy individual tickets
· Raffle tickets for the $2,500 Utica Square shopping spree
· View photos from last year's event and this year's Kickoff Party

The event is always a great time, including a delicious dinner, a live and silent auction, a wine pull, live entertainment, and the highly anticipated raffle for the $2,500 Utica Square shopping spree! Saint Simeon's looks forward to seeing members of the Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma on Sept. 9! 

Youth Ministry News

Youth
From Fuller Youth Institute - How Young is Too Young for Digital Technology and Social Media?

Many of you know firsthand how difficult today's question is: At what age should a person start using a certain device, app, or social media platform?  

When we talk with parents about this, many express feeling like they're holding the line in a battle for as long as possible. There is constant pressure, from multiple sides, for kids to start using more and more digital technology at earlier ages.

That cultural pressure makes this question particularly tough. We can tell you what doctors recommend, what the national averages are, or various other pros and cons; but when your kids' school tells you they need an email account, or their coach tells you they will be coordinating practice times by text message, or your teen comes home and tells you the irrefutable sad refrain "all my friends have one!"-the data seems to go out the window.

What the Doctors Say - In case you're wondering, here is what medical professionals say: The American Association of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends having "screen free zones" in the house, especially a young person's bedroom, as well as "screen free times" like during meals. They also recommend just one to two hours of entertainment screen time per day, and zero screen time at all for children under two years old.

Now don't be too thrown off if those recommendations are not quite how it is in your house. Keep in mind that these are the same people who recommend brushing your teeth three times a day, sleeping eight hours a night, daily exercise, and a well-balanced diet-they set the bar at "best-case scenario." But that best-case scenario is based on what's good for our bodies, minds, and emotions. Aiming high never hurts.

That being said, there are several big takeaways that I want to share after having reviewed a number of relevant studies. First, a few key findings to consider, followed by some recommended tips and strategies for families and leaders.

Key Findings about Kids and Digital Technology
1. Online behavior tends to be very consistent with offline behavior.

Parents should discuss concerns about their teen offline: spending a lot of time with the opposite sex, easily distracted from homework, getting picked on by peers, and so on. It is easy to imagine any and every negative scenario that might happen, but you're better off identifying and focusing on the more likely ones-which are the ones most similar to the concerns you already have about offline behavior.

2. Parents set the standards for the house.

You get what you give. Many parents and leaders might be best served by focusing on honoring their own screen-free zones and times, and limiting their number of hours per day on screens outside of work. I know that can be a hard pill to swallow, but seeing you struggle with it, and seeing how you work out accountability structures for yourself will have a big impact on your kids. In some cases they may even be your best allies-you hold them accountable for a lot of things; they'll appreciate a chance to return the favor!

3. The primary reason young people actually use digital technology is to interact and communicate with friends, family, and peers.

The second reason is to explore their hobbies and interests online-with gaming falling into this category since the interest itself (the games) are online. Any ways you can enhance their abilities to do these two things without technology may reduce their sense of needing or wanting the technology itself.

Tips and Strategies for Navigating the "When to Start" Question
The magic number is 13. The minimum age required for Facebook, iTunes, G-Mail, Pinterest, SnapChat, and Instagram are all 13. Twitter no longer says so as required in their terms, but encourages parents to notify them of accounts for anyone under 13 (at: privacy@twitter.com) to be taken down. If you have a child under the age of 13 who is using these social media platforms, you can appeal to terms of use and the current law and draw a line. Service and user-agreements for various other devices, software, apps, and so on will often provide a mandatory minimum user age, typically to avoid legal liabilities. This should help parents make certain limits up to at least age 13.

Talk with other parents, particularly at your church, and try to set community standards. A lot of parents read blogs like this one because they feel left on their own with these types of decisions. Coordinating with other parents provides some peace of mind, and can be helpful when teachers, coaches, scout leaders, and so on try to push towards using email/text/etc. by providing strength in numbers. "We signed a pledge with 10 other families at church that we aren't going to let our kids have a smartphone until..." If you are a pastor or youth leader, think about facilitating something like this for parents. Your job will be easier too if most of the young people in your group are on the same page with this stuff! 
Remember when you are having these conversations that these devices are, to them, like the Air Jordans, Leather Jackets, Walkmans, belly-button rings-whatever it was that would set you apart as cool or uncool at their age. It is easy to get misdirected by questions of convenience, necessity, requirement for school, and so on. What is at stake for a lot of young people when they ask, then beg, for these things is a feeling of fitting in and self-worth. Take that into consideration, show them empathy, and don't discredit how important something similar seemed to you at some point in your adolescent journey.

Create a kind of "terms and conditions" plan with your teenager prior to giving them access to a device. Be generous in creating it and strict in enforcing it, rather than the other way around. Include timeframes for when the contract will be renegotiated/renewed based on certain expectations, like grades or help around the house. Contracts are helpful in setting boundaries, but also helpful with understanding the types of contractual relationships they will enter into as adults. In keeping with our first tip above, it might be helpful for parents to also have some responsibilities in this contract.

Common Sense Media offers free sample agreements for grades K-5, 6-8, and 9-12. The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding (CPYU) also has a sample family covenant.

We might also suggest adding a relevant Bible verse to your family's covenant (e.g. Ephesians 4:29, "Let no evil words come from you, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who receive them.") to remind your kids that being a Christian applies to communicating digitally as much as it does to communicating face-to-face. Online behavior tends to be very consistent with offline behavior-that can be a good thing, too!
Have you tried an agreement like the ones we have described? We would love for you to post your ideas in the comments section below to help other parents and leaders.

Kevin Kelly, a Christian and the founding editor-in-chief of Wired magazine has a great chapter titled "Lessons of Amish Hackers" in his book What Technology Wants on the community discernment practices Mennonites use with regards to adopting new technology. Obviously you may not skew as lo-tech as the Pennsylvania Amish, but their process is great and could easily be adapted to fit your context. ↩

Article written by Art Bamfor, a third-year M.Div. student at Fuller's Pasadena campus and an intern with FYI. Before coming to Fuller, Art was a research associate for the Estlow Center's "Teens & The New Media @ Home Project" at University of Denver where he received an M.A. in media and communication in 2010.
Episcoposse Schedule for Summer

Episcoposse is for all youth in the Tulsa Area. Join in the fun as the group plays, works, prays, studies, and does all sorts of fun things!
July

Sunday the 20th@ 1:30pm
Pool Day
Grab your suit and spend the afternoon by the pool with us! Bring a towel and some sunscreen. We'll meet at the Wignalls house to eat and then head to their neighborhood pool to swim.

August

Friday the 8th @ 7:00pm
Drive in Movie @ the Admiral Twin
We'll meet @ St. Patrick's and head to the movies! Please bring $7 for your ticket and movie snacks of your choice 
Happening Scheduled for August 1 - 3
 
Happening

Happening is a Christian experience presented for teenagers who are in or have completed grades 10,11, or 12 and is led by other teenagers with the help of clergy and lay adult leadership. This year's event will be held at St Anselm of Canterbury@ the University of Oklahoma. 


The purpose of the Happening - A Christian Experience program 
is to be one of the instruments within the Anglican Tradition to renew the Christian Church in the power of the Holy Spirit, in order that the Church may respond more readily to its call to spread the Kingdom of God throughout the world.

Happening - A Christian Experience
 seeks to achieve this purpose by bringing young persons and adults to a fuller personal knowledge of and relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, and to a deeper level of commitment and apostleship.
- from Standards and Guidelines for conducting the weekend

What can I expect at a Happening weekend? During the Happening weekend (usually beginning Friday evening and continuing through Sunday afternoon) there are activities designed for fun and Christian community building among participants. 

Throughout the weekend a series of talks are presented by youth and clergy to logically present the elements that define a mature profession of faith and the catechism process. The presentation of key talks by youth using personal life experiences is intended to offer Christ's message to attending Happeners on a level they can understand, and to answer many of the faith questions youth struggle with daily. Talks about church teachings and their importance in the lives of youth attending the weekend are presented by clergy in a fair and friendly manner. Each talk is a critical building block in the creation of the Happening message. The entire series of talks is given in a sequence that is intended to guide Happeners by opening an avenue of discussions to help them verbalize and internalize their faith questions in a safe environment and hopefully lead to a renewed or new relationship with Christ.

Caritas, or signs of God's love through letters, messages and small tokens are distributed at times over the weekend to deepen fellowship, and to demonstrate the knowledge and support that comes to each weekend from the "wider church." 
 
Click here for registration form.
Applications for 2014-15 Class of Episcopal Youth Leadership Academy to Close Soon
 
We are now taking applications for our next group. Our first meeting will be in September, 2014. We will have complete details on meeting locations and dates soon. But you need to apply now. 

This program is open to youth 6th - 9th grade, who want to learn to be leaders. It is a one-year program and requires a large commitment on your part and that of your parents in transporting you to and from these meeting locations. Youth will also work with a mentor in their parish. 

There is no limit on the number that can apply from any congregation and we welcome participants from congregations of all sizes. 

For a copy of the application, click here.

If you have any questions about this opportunity, please contact Sabrina Evans at sevans@epiok.org. 
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Forgiveness: A Growth in Love E-Course

August 4 - August 29, 2014 , led by Contemplative Outreach, Spirituality & Practice 
Forgiving is one of the most difficult and complex gestures and yet, like love, it is one of the things which defines the essence of our humanity. In fact, the contemplative dimension of forgiveness reveals that at its core, forgiveness is a divine gift of love, a movement of love so profound that it reveals the truth of our nature - fully human and enlivened with the divine potential.

Yet, the very fact that we do not forgive, or find forgiveness so difficult, reveals another essential quality of our humanness - free will. We have a God-given ability to choose, to be and to do as we please, and how we choose defines the level of our being. In seeking to live a contemplative life in the modern world, we are invited to make conscious, loving choices.

These are the themes explored in this one-month retreat on the contemplative practice of forgiveness. Weekly emails delivered on Monday, Wednesday and Friday will contain and direct you to further retreat content, including:

* essays on various aspects of forgiveness 
* step-by-step instructions in the Prayer of Forgiveness plus an audio version of the prayer for your practice 
* an online gallery of scripture passages on forgiveness 
* video clips showing examples of forgiveness of ourselves, others, and institutions 
* excerpts from an audio conference about forgiveness 
* mini-practices to ground the forgiveness practice in your daily life
* Q&A with the retreat leaders during a one-hour teleconference, August 19, 8 - 9 pm ET 
* the opportunity to share and connect with others in the online Practice Circle

Click here to Register.
ChurchNext Offers The Spirituality of Children with Catherine Maresca
 
Understanding our children's spiritual journey can them grow up with a healthy and helpful faith, and give us a sense of confidence in ministering to children. In this class author and teacher Catherine Maresca gives us a basic understanding of the spiritual underpinnings of children 0-6 and 6-12 years old.

The Spirituality of Children with Catherine Maresca
$10.00 /person
Included in ChurchNext Unlimited Plan or Register now 

Registration includes:

Free 24/7 access to all video lectures, downloads, and course content.
Video lectures with Catherine Maresca
Downloadable Discussion Questions for groups and The Takeaway, for personal study.
Interaction with other students through discussion questions and sharing notes.

About this course - The spiritual lives of children are much different than those of adults, says author and teacher Catherine Maresca. She is the director of the Center for Children and Theology and says when we treat the religious journeys of our young ones in the wrong ways we can rob them of important experiences or, even worse, do great harm. This introductory course gives us a broad overview of the shape of spiritual development for 0-6 year olds and 6-12 year olds. Here's how the class is laid out:

The spiritual lives of 0-6 year olds and the quality of joy
The spiritual lives of 0-6 year olds and the centrality of the essentials
The spiritual lives of 6-12 year olds and the sense of communion
The spiritual lives of 6-12 year olds and the moral life

This class may be particularly helpful for young parents, teachers, and religious educators who are new to the field and want a better understanding of the spiritual lives of children.

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Contact Information
Sabrina Evans
(405) 232-4820
sevans@epiok.org